The elements of bonding

In every person, there is an inherent need to belong to a (or many) community, family, club or society. One is born into a natural family and wherever he grows up in, in school and in work, he will belong to his school of his workplace. And in the school he will belong to the class and so on.

But why do we longed to be belong? Perhaps it is because we all do not want to feel lonely. To belong, it seems that there are some activities which we have to do. When we are in primary school we play hop scotch and hide and seek. In secondary school we have adventure camps and PE games. In JC we have orientation and class outings. In army we have lots of shit. And in uni we have orientation camps and halls.

It seems that such friendship bonds are better forged when there is an intensive amount of contact games and activities, and when teamwork is formed. Moreover, I think that staying over together (in a camp or hostel or holiday) is a major essential component of forging closer bonds. When we rub one another’s shoulders, sleep together and do various other things together, somehow we get to know one another better, as we share intimate, possibly private and precious moments of our lives. We then become more comfortable with each other’s presence and we can click together better.

If these intimate elements are missing in a community, then the bonds created are more superficial, or there may be no bonds created at all. Besides, it takes a tremendous amount of effort and organisation to get everybody together. So actually the easiest solution is to throw everyone in some camp and out of it friendships will be created.

However there is also the problem of maintaining such bonds in friendship. As the frequency of meeting decreases, we tend to feel further apart an stranger. Often, there needs an organiser to plan outings and meetings regularly. Otherwise the group may become strangers. Which is perhaps why a research shows that friendships usually last a maximum of 7 years. Although personally I feel that good friendships should last longer than that.

Well interestingly, I’m writing this during a camp.

Feed The World, One For One

Imagine technology can Feed The World, One For One, without going through various layers of money handling. Technology will allow money donations to be made directly to the people who are hungry and poor. Each person can feed another halfway across the world with no strings attached. One meal for one meal, one for one.

This short film was an entry for the Microsoft Imagine Cup 2009 Short Film Competition by nuSTUDIOS Film Productions (a member of NUS Centre For the Arts)